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I just say I work in academic administration, and that I’m content with my job.
Thus, my dates always feature long, awkward pauses. Don’t get me wrong – I’m very proud of what I’ve accomplished.“Just be yourself” is the most common dating advice in the world. I also feel like I’m being scrutinized for every single thing I say, do, and for how I look. I really do care about people, and I like demonstrating it. But it doesn’t come out unless I’m comfortable enough with the people I’m with to reveal it. I can be talkative, but I prefer to listen rather than talk. On dates I feel like I’m interviewing for a role and having to sell my qualities in order to make the cut. Complicating it for me is that I’m not particularly attractive. With hair, makeup and the right clothes, that would put me at about a 5. Personality-wise, my friends say I’m the nicest person they’ve ever known. Ultimately, dating success isn’t about pretending to be someone you’re not, but rather, about being the most confident, generous, self-aware person you can be. I really try my best to be positive about dating – ex., thinking of each date as a new opportunity rather than a retread of previous problems. I’ve honestly come to dread it because I’ve had enough bad experiences with dating that I don’t view dating as being any fun at all. I think that’s why I’ve never been able to be myself on dates, which I know is part of my problem. And while I don’t have a horn growing out the center of my forehead, on a scale of 1-10, I’d give myself a 3 (with no makeup on). Dating is definitely a skill – one that I admittedly don’t have, which is why this podcast drew me in. But in all honesty, my experience with dating is that it’s no different than a job interview.I’ll admit that I’m insecure about the fact that I don’t think I have a tremendous amount to offer a guy. But at the same time, I don’t think I’m any more or less remarkable then the next person.
It’s interesting what we think is successful, and how that transfers over into attracting a partner.
I’d say that my biggest success in life has probably been earning my doctorate, because it took ten years of my life to get there and I had to build a lot of important relationships along the way to accomplish it.
So I act with the reservation and caution such a situation calls for. In combination with my academic job and my Ph D, I know I can come off as aloof and intense, although I try really hard not to.
I am confident, but it’s a really quiet, internal self-confidence that isn’t immediately apparent to people.
Showboating, grandstanding, and shameless self promotion is not my thing.
On dates I rarely talk about my Ph D, or that I have a pretty good job.